These are direct quotes from my notes with clients. While I have their permission to use them here, I am making sure their identities remain confidential.
“Paula was able to teach us the skills to speak to one another and really HEAR and FEEL what the other is feeling. Once we learned how to do this, we saw things a lot differently.
We have learned what is really important to us. We have overcome some of the hardest obstacles. I have learned not to dwell. He has learned that his fear of missing out would have been missing out on our lives, if we didn’t fix our issues together.
I have faith in her. She doesn’t sugar coat anything. She tells the honest truth even when at times it’s hard to hear. That is something myself and my partner always respected about her the most.”
“When I saw you ten years ago about the death of my child, what I didn’t tell you then was that I had been ready to commit suicide – pills, plans- house cleaned – and then I met you. You saved my life. I have since remarried and my new husband tells me to say, “Thank you” for him. – Mrs. B.
“I have an honest woman who has cleaned up a lot of her stuff. She was with another therapist for many years and nothing changed. Now it is 1000% different since we’ve been seeing you. I am healthier, too, and am a much better boyfriend. We are even talking about marriage and kids.” – Mr. M.
“I lost 20 lbs of shame, guilt and garbage. For the first time, I can actually say I am happy and have grown up.” – Mr. K.
“It was easier for me to be angry than for me to be vulnerable. Now I can actually express myself and he listens. We are so much closer.” – Mrs. V.
“I am cleaning up my past, learning communication skills, establishing a different level of emotional intimacy and being conscious. It has become effortless and really easy to stay engaged and really listen. After 18 years we are finally learning what it means to be married. And, we are seeing a difference in our kids.” – Mr. I.
She told me there were some 15 different therapists she saw – psychiatrists, social workers, psychologists who didn’t “get her.” “I have been in therapy 47 years and no one ever spoke to me about my anger. I scared more therapists. They could not deal with me. You are not afraid to go where I need to go.” – Mrs. S.
“EMDR” has changed both of us. I am trusting myself and know I have been different. I am not the monster, terrorizing her anymore and she doesn’t have the PTSD symptoms that almost killed her. I am grateful for your help.” – Mr. R.
“For the first time in my whole life, I have a mother I can talk to. I finally believe she does care for me.” – Ms. M.
From a young man who was deceived by his partner for five years, “I am extremely impressed with the rate of progress that EMDR provided. It blows my mind that I went from one week to the next and then the next with such huge changes in me. I never expected to feel “normal” after what happened. I have learned a lot and in the end, it was the best thing that happened to us. My wife has done such wonderful work with you, and, we now have a relationship that we both trust.”
– Mr. P.
“I am not used to feeling this way. I am actually feeling happy. It has been subtle and profound. I used to feel so damaged. I am not a victim anymore. I look forward to living now.” – Ms. M.
“You helped me get rid of my shame and guilt, and, I like who I am today. I can ask for what I want.”
– Mr. P.
“A whole gang of people at work have seen my changes. I am honoring myself and re-evaluating my future. I feel like a normal human being. I am not mean anymore.” – Mr. C.
“It blows my mind that a complete stranger could show me such warmth and compassion. It is hard to take in when my own family has taken advantage, stolen from me, abused me, lied about me, abandoned me. You gave me hope that I could be cared about and that I actually meant something to someone.”
– Mr. J.