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Paula Susan, respected therapist in South Jersey asks . . . .DO YOU LIVE IN A SECURE, LOVING RELATIONSHIP?

      It’s a good question to ask, especially in the midst of all the challenges this world is experiencing, and the chaos and present dangers we hear about daily. 

      If your relationship doesn’t feel secure and loving, then consider using my skills, wisdom and knowledge to create a relationship that is healthy, loving, safe and supportive. 

      That is something you do have power over.  Just about every couple I meet comes in with built up resentments.

      These resentments multiply and the kindness a couple once had for each other is lost. One can feel the distance between them.  When you have accumulated resentments over the years, intimacy suffers.

      What happened to the joy they once felt?

      Many times the couple is ready for divorce. There is a lot to consider. I can help.

      With skills I have learned and integrated into my work, deep healing (that you would have carried with you wherever you are) will result. I teach some of those skills to my clients so their success with me is maintained.

      EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) goes to the root of the issue. The Dialogue brings couples together in a kind, respectful way. It is a process that will take you into each other’s experience. From that process, empathy will emerge and a deeper understanding of the partners will bring them closer.

      I have dedicated my life to this healing. Call me at 609-975-8845 so we can speak personally with each other.

      You have the power to re-create your relationship and live the life you have wanted.

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Paula Susan, Relationship and Trauma Specialist Since 1982, Discusses The Loss of a Love That Once Radiated Your Life.

My office, here in South Jersey has been filled with couples aching for what once was. Sometimes the problem is not knowing how to enliven a weary relationship. Same routines often become boring.

I find communication and intimacy a primary issue. If you have not felt heard or understood, the way I teach communication will restore connection in a respectful, safe way.

Intimacy is created by authentic sharing of your needs and wants.

If the sex is little or none, if it doesn’t feel good, being able to discuss it in an effective way can lead to wonderful intimacy. There are books and videos to help partners face the disappointment they feel with each other in bed.

Anger, especially not discussed and resolved, will not lead to hot and loving sex There is that need for kind, authentic discussion.

Betrayal strikes at the core of the one who is the victim. It is ugly and hurtful. However it calls for the kind of counseling I do.  There lies in front of you, the path to healing for you and the betrayer. They had abandoned their values and self-respect.

Learning how to heal the hole in their relationship does happen here.

Divorce? Slow down and seek the path of your healing. Be certain that there is no way past this. Your children, family and friends will be happy that you chose to recreate love and trust.

And, you will not carry the anger, pain and shame into other relationships.

I am an integrated therapist. I learned EMDR from the researcher who found a way to go to the core of the issues and heal them, while offering insight.

I am proud to be spending my life leading the path, to wholeness, laughter, happiness, and when they slip, how to get back to using the skills I teach.

Call me at 609-975-8845. Our connection and, your willingness to bring your heart and soul into an experience of healing and connection will change your life.

Posted in Anger, Betrayal, Choosing a partner, Chronic Illness, Couples Counseling, Creating Intimacy in Relationships, EMDR, Falling in love, Family Counseling, Keeping Relationships Healthy and Fun, Marriage Counseling, NJ Counseling Services, PTSD Therapists, Relationship with Mothers and Fathers, Relationships on Holidays, Sex, Sexual attraction, South Jersey Counseling, South Jersey Therapists

Paula Susan Has Been Successful in Healing Trauma

Why Paula Susan has been so successful in healing trauma.

 

Here in South Jersey, I have spent these last 39 years, doing the deep work of healing trauma survivors.  Abuse comes in many forms.  There is mental, physical, sexual, emotional abuse and neglect.

 

Any one of these may result in seriously low self-esteem.  If your parents are not encouraging, inspiring, loving, your self-esteem will be very damaged.

 

When that happens, your choices will not be the best.  This may continue to add to your disappointment in yourself.  Happiness eludes you.

 

I made a commitment to learn everything I could on the subject of trauma.  I decided to specialize in this field as well as relationships.

 

It is absolutely true that your past experiences affect the relationships you forge. Most marriages in therapy, demonstrate that to me.

 

I know how to heal in the core and help you create a loving, fulfilling life.  I know because I lived it!

 

www.paulasusan.com

609-975-8845

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Relationship and Trauma Specialist heals pain at its core and gives broken marriages a new breath of life.

Relationship and Trauma Specialist in Southern New Jersey,  Paula Susan, heals pain at its core and gives broken marriages a new breath of life.

 

For almost for years, it has been a privilege, my hearts pleasure, to meet and help people to live life with optimism and self-respect.

 

I like working with couples on the edge, between repair and divorce.  It is vital to assist in their making sense of why they got where they are with each other.

 

With a successful process called EMDR, along with the integration of all my learning through the years, I am able to see people truly moved beyond their negative emotions.

 

Learning the power of honest communication is unbeatable, with your partner or in the world.  I teach a Dialogue that re-connects relationships, through truly listening and hearing the other – combined with learning the value of empathy.

 

We tackle the differences now with understanding of where the other is “coming from” and how it impacts them.  Between the two, they are able to come to a solution that respects each of them.

Paula has been counseling couples and individuals for over 37 years.

 

Please call and speak with me regarding what hurts in your life.

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Choosing the Best Therapist for Relationship Issues

CHOOSING THE BEST THERAPIST FOR

RELATIONSHIP ISSUES

 

Honestly, it blows my mind that people are so afraid to confront the things that bother them in their relationships.  Some keep their mouths shut because they are afraid to be met with a firestorm.  Some don’t know how to discuss their unhappiness.  Some were brought up to keep quiet –  Don’t argue –

Do what you are told.

 

So, what happens?  Resentments build over time, and there are consequences that will lead to disaster in your relationships:  Periodic blow-ups, not wanting to be home, not being able to participate fully in sexual intimacy, some lead to affairs or divorce.  There have even been cases which lead to murder.  When anger builds, anything can happen.

 

Good therapy, with a good therapist can change your life.  That may mean a few less dinners out and postponing Broadway shows.  But, it will be so worth it!  The results of the therapy will be that you will have what it takes to build a happy life.

 

I have 38 years of experience.  That is not just counseling people in my office. It is also all the readings and all the trainings that I have done and continue to do.  I am up-to-date on the myriad methods to alleviate suffering.   I teach an amazing method to express yourselves to one other.  I have the skills to deeply heal the wounds of your life which keep you from knowing lasting love and the emotional connection that is necessary for intimacy and a life worth living.

 

Read my website and give me a call. We can talk and see if we fit for working together.

Paula Susan, MSW, LCSW is a Relationship and Trauma Specialist in Southern New Jersey who has been counseling couples and individuals for over 33 years.

Posted in Anger, Choosing a partner, Chronic Illness, Couples Counseling, Creating Intimacy in Relationships, EMDR, Falling in love, Family Counseling, Keeping Relationships Healthy and Fun, Marriage Counseling, NJ Counseling Services, PTSD Therapists, Relationship with Mothers and Fathers, Relationships on Holidays, Sex, Sexual attraction, South Jersey Counseling, South Jersey Therapists

South Jersey’s Experienced Trauma and Relationship Therapist shares the Process

South Jersey’s Experienced Trauma and Relationships Therapist Shares the Process.

 

When couples come in for therapy, I, as a specialist in trauma and relationships, find I always have both hats on.

 

No matter their concerns, I also take into account their life experiences.  Their reactions to their partners, friends, the world are often provoking unconscious memories which impact their responses.

 

Feelings of each are discussed.  Empathy is encouraged.  Healing the issues and feelings in the present need to happen.  With the wealth of training from experts in the field, I remain convinced that EMDR does an efficient and excellent job of healing deep wounds.  I integrate that process with all I have learned.

 

Communication skills are absolutely necessary – even for those who feel they do talk to each other.  The skills I teach create understanding and empathy.

 

Negotiation skills help couples find a way to satisfy each other.

 

Call me and we can talk.  609-975-8845.

 

Posted in Anger, Choosing a partner, Chronic Illness, Couples Counseling, Creating Intimacy in Relationships, EMDR, Falling in love, Family Counseling, Keeping Relationships Healthy and Fun, Marriage Counseling, NJ Counseling Services, PTSD Therapists, Relationship with Mothers and Fathers, Relationships on Holidays, Sex, Sexual attraction, South Jersey Counseling, South Jersey Therapists

Choosing the Best Therapist for Relationship Issues

CHOOSING THE BEST THERAPIST FOR

RELATIONSHIP ISSUES

 

Honestly, it blows my mind that people are so afraid to confront the things that bother them in their relationships.  Some keep their mouths shut because they are afraid to be met with a firestorm.  Some don’t know how to discuss their unhappiness.  Some were brought up to keep quiet –  Don’t argue –

Do what you are told.

 

So, what happens?  Resentments build over time, and there are consequences that will lead to disaster in your relationships:  Periodic blow-ups, not wanting to be home, not being able to participate fully in sexual intimacy, some lead to affairs or divorce.  There have even been cases which lead to murder.  When anger builds, anything can happen.

 

Good therapy, with a good therapist can change your life.  That may mean a few less dinners out and postponing Broadway shows.  But, it will be so worth it!  The results of the therapy will be that you will have what it takes to build a happy life.

 

I have 38 years of experience.  That is not just counseling people in my office. It is also all the readings and all the trainings that I have done and continue to do.  I am up-to-date on the myriad methods to alleviate suffering.   I teach an amazing method to express yourselves to one other.  I have the skills to deeply heal the wounds of your life which keep you from knowing lasting love and the emotional connection that is necessary for intimacy and a life worth living.

 

Read my website and give me a call. We can talk and see if we fit for working together.

Paula Susan, MSW, LCSW is a Relationship and Trauma Specialist in Southern New Jersey who has been counseling couples and individuals for over 33 years.

Posted in Anger, Choosing a partner, Chronic Illness, Couples Counseling, Creating Intimacy in Relationships, EMDR, Falling in love, Family Counseling, Keeping Relationships Healthy and Fun, Marriage Counseling, NJ Counseling Services, PTSD Therapists, Relationship with Mothers and Fathers, Relationships on Holidays, Sex, Sexual attraction, South Jersey Counseling, South Jersey Therapists

South Jersey’s Experienced Trauma and Relationships Therapist Shares the Process.

When couples come in for therapy, I, as a specialist in trauma and relationships, find I always have both hats on.

No matter their concerns, I also take into account their life experiences.  Their reactions to their partners, friends, the world are often provoking unconscious memories which impact their responses.

Feelings of each are discussed.  Empathy is encouraged.  Healing the issues and feelings in the present need to happen.  With the wealth of training from experts in the field, I remain convinced that EMDR does an efficient and excellent job of healing deep wounds.  I integrate that process with all I have learned.

Communication skills are absolutely necessary – even for those who feel they do talk to each other.  The skills I teach create understanding and empathy.

Negotiation skills help couples find a way to satisfy each other.

Call me and we can talk.  609-975-8845.

 

Posted in Anger, Choosing a partner, Chronic Illness, Couples Counseling, Creating Intimacy in Relationships, EMDR, Falling in love, Family Counseling, Keeping Relationships Healthy and Fun, Marriage Counseling, NJ Counseling Services, PTSD Therapists, Relationship with Mothers and Fathers, Relationships on Holidays, Sex, Sexual attraction, South Jersey Counseling, South Jersey Therapists

Hat’s Off To The Graduates

HATS OFF TO THE GRADUATES

By Paula Susan

Spring is busting out all over, and students everywhere are excited but scared, at the same time, to move on to the next level in their education.

Some arrived at this point through hardships and disabilities. They were determined, and they made it.

Some were survivors of emotional, physical, psychological and sexual forms of abuse. They somehow knew there was something inside of them that was worth cultivating.

There is some sadness in letting go – of routines, teachers, and friends. There is an awareness in everyone that they are moving from their childhood into an adult world.

Some of these students were blessed with money to support the schools of their choice. Some were not.

When I graduated from graduate school, I was infused with joy. In middle age, I achieved my goal of 4.0.  Had I found a way into college after High School, there is no knowing where I would be at my present age of 77.  I am proud to say that I have spent most of my life healing others. I am still doing it.

Who could hope for better?

So, our hats off to those embarking on the next part of their journey. Remember to enjoy each moment.

Be in gratitude that you have had this opportunity.

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South Jersey’s Specialist in Complex Relationships/Marriage and Trauma

SOUTH JERSEY’S SPECIALIST IN COMPLEX RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGE AND TRAUMA

 

Since 1982, I have enjoyed the privilege of helping human beings heal and grow.

Most often, the issues that arise in a once-loving relationship have a connection, in some way, to the difficulties faced as a child. Parents may rage, say things that put you down creating low self-esteem which often remains through adulthood, committed incest which will lead to sexual problems, psychological, emotional abuse, violence, neglect.

Anyone of these will remain in the body easily affecting their behavior and sense of the world. Their own anger, emotional pain, and fear may unconsciously be wrecking their relationships.

There have not been any conversations on division of labor.  Expectations of roles haven’t been discussed and agreed upon. Boundaries are not clear.  Sexual issues are often not discussed. Many people don’t grow their sexual potential. Some are adverse to it. They don’t discuss the difference in their desire.

Children often get mixed message when parents have differences in their parenting style.

Of course, there are many issues that come up when two people join their lives. Their past experiences, beliefs, expectations – all that shaped each partner may clash and a war of silence or attack may ensue. There are ways to deal with it all by learning communication skills, healing the wounds of the past, learning how to create a healthy, loving and fun relationship.

Coming to see me could be the best thing you could do for yourself and absolutely for your marriage/relationship.

Check out this website www.paulasusan.com, and call me with your concerns at 609-975-8845

Posted in Anger, Choosing a partner, Chronic Illness, Couples Counseling, Creating Intimacy in Relationships, Falling in love, Family Counseling, Keeping Relationships Healthy and Fun, Marriage Counseling, NJ Counseling Services, PTSD Therapists, Relationship with Mothers and Fathers, Relationships on Holidays, Sex, Sexual attraction, South Jersey Counseling, South Jersey Therapists

Masters in Social Work and Psychology
- Relationship & Trauma
- Specialist Since 1982
- Expert in EMDR

Short-Term
Dynamic Therapy

Training & Certifications in Energy
Psychology, Cognitive/Behavioral,
EMDR, HAT, EFT, Hypnotherapy,
Neurolinguistics and more.

IMAGO
Certified Relationship Specialist

Heal Relationships
Affairs:
To separate or grow beyond

Gay and Lesbian Challenges:
How to transcend them

Sexual Issues:
Release from dogma to freedom,
from passive to responsive

Communication:
Hearing and being heard -
real connection

Resolve Trauma
Certified by American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress: Big and Small Trauma,
Incest, Tragedy, Sexual Violation,
Grieving, Chronic Illness

Clinical Depression,
Anxiety

Consultation to
professionals

Referral Network

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