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As the specialist in South Jersey counseling people for trauma issues (big and small) and relationship challenges (any kind), I see more and more people are desiring something stable and good in their personal lives. They are not willing to settle any more. Divorces are happening in long marriages like 36 or 40 something years. Dissatisfied people young and old should come to me to heal long carried resentments and pain.

I, Paula Susan, am known as the specialist for trauma issues (sometimes from long ago) and all the marital and relationship issues from anger, infidelity, lack of communication, sexual problems and the list goes on. You might be surprised that I see people from the shore area, Cherry Hill, Moorestown, Voorhees, Mt. Laurel, and everywhere in between. Sometimes, from Philadelphia, too. Why travel to a therapist when there is one close by? See my website paulasusan.com No one has to live unhappy in South Jersey. Make this an important investment for the rest of your life. Travel if you have to. You will see how deep healing in a relatively short time can transform your life.

 Know what happiness and contentment you can have, if you commit to making the quality of your life count.

 I’m Paula Susan right here in South Jersey. I have been doing this work since 1982. Check me out.

Hi, and Happy New Year!  I have been specializing in the field of marriage and trauma therapy since 1982. And, every year it is the same, in my practice. The phones are ringing off the hook after the holidays, with people so sad about facing another year in an unhappy, unfulfilling relationship.

Reading my web site, www.paulasusan.com, you will see there is a lot of wisdom in deciding to do this work before you leave your marriage, or have an affair, or build another year of anger.

With an understanding of what you value that still exists between you and what the challenges are, you learn a way to hear and “get” the differences in each of you, and why there is so much distance and friction.

Call me at 856-638-1868 and we can talk about your specific struggle. This investment in short-term therapy can give you lifelong benefits!

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South Jersey’s Specialist in Relationships/Marriage and Trauma speaks about the painful revelations around holidays and the coming New Year.

Since 1982, I have been listening to couples who have been in a relationship or marriage a long time. Many of them feel lonely. Many are angry because their relationship is nothing like they expected it to be. The sexual connection is gone. The romance is non-existent, and they fight a lot. The expression is they are not “on the same page”.

Some people admit they are ready to have affairs. Their partners are no longer interested in them, and they are longing to be touched, to be listened to, to be loved.

If you are feeling this way, too, read my web site www.paulasusan.com, take the relationship quiz, and call me at 856-638-1868.

I not only revive relationships and marriages, I heal the pain that has been carried inside for years. I will teach you how to open your hearts again to this person you once loved, and who loved you.

Face Christmas and the New Year with hope, and a path to deeply loving again.

I promised myself back in 1982, when I chose to specialize in relationships and trauma, that I would not be a Freudian. Everything cannot possibly originate with Mom. Well, certainly not everything. Dad and early circumstances set the tone for how people think and feel about themselves and their ability to relate to others.

That is why I make a point of seeing each member of the couple alone for one session to get background information and to create a comfortable space for honesty and growth.

Sure enough, the person who is angry a lot, carries the anger from childhood, deep in the unconscious, because of neglect or abuse. It shows up in relationships. The lack of trust and safety from those early days interferes with the trust that is needed for intimacy in a marriage.

ENDR will heal those deep wounds as well as wounds from the present such as affairs in the relationship. People come away from our work feeling transformed and whole. Communication becomes something that pulls them close and loving with each other.

Call and speak with me 856-638-1868

South Jersey’s Specialist in Relationships/Marriage & Trauma

Why Seeing Couples Together and Separately is the Best Way

Since 1982, I’ve specialized in working with complex couples relationships – actually any kind of relationship. What I’ve learned through the years of counseling is that seeing couples only together doesn’t allow for the whole story to come out. (Most of my colleagues only see couples together.)

Many people are not comfortable expressing their biggest complaints in front of their partners. They fear their partner will be angry and hurt them in some way. Sometimes one partner is having an affair and if the therapist doesn’t know, then they are wasting their money. That person needs to resolve where he/she wants to be before real marriage counseling can begin.

So, when I invite a couple in for the first meeting, I have them fill in the Inventory on my website and we discuss that in the first meeting. I lay out how I work so they know what to expect. The next two sessions are designed for me to see each person alone – to establish a connection and to get background information. Then I bring them together and teach a fabulous communication skill that creates safety and deep understanding between them. It is a relationship builder.

EMDR is what I use to heal anger, shame, resentments, abuse, affairs… and to help build healthy self-respect.

Relationships can be transformed into something worth living!

Call me at 856-638-1868 and we can talk.

South Jersey Relationships/Marriage, and Trauma Specialist – Integrates EMDR for effective, efficient deep healing. 

See more, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_QJbCtr8bvA

I am an early pioneer in EMDR Therapy. I studied with Francine Shapiro, the scientist who created the process, in 1991. I have since made it my own, also using skills I have developed from other masters in my field.

Knowing the therapeutic community here in South Jersey, I differentiate myself from most therapists by integrating EMDR or HAT (Heart Assisted Therapy) into all my work. I teach a communication process that is the finest I’ve seen in my entire career. People begin to truly hear each other, with understanding and compassion, which leads to the intimacy that was lost over time.

I make it part of my protocol to see each person individually to make a connection, get background information, and to hear anything they might be uncomfortable sharing in front of their partner. As the therapist, I need and want all the information I can have, to do a thorough job of helping people let go of their anger and upset with each other, and to build an intimate relationship of trust again – or to separate respectfully.

If there is a hidden affair, I want to help that person see the reality of their conflict, and to help them define what they want for themselves.

Relationships and marriages are complex. Everyone brings aspects of their past into the present. Many are not aware just how much the past affects us. EMDR gives access to “attachment” damages, and restores wholeness.

I’m proud to be in my 35^th year of coming through for people who needed to learn new ways of achieving happiness and peace.

Now that you are on my website, browse categories that interest you. Check out the testimonials. Then call me at 856-638-1868.