I am Paula Susan. Since 1982, I have specialized in trauma and Relationships/Marital issues. Many numbers of people in South Jersey are in healthy relationships because they learned one of the finest communication skills that I teach. Their relationship is one of connection and loving.
Communication is about truly hearing your partner, listening with compassion to what they are saying from their perspective. Sometimes it takes courage and self-esteem to speak your truth. In many marriages, they do not speak their truth for fear of “rocking the boat” of their relationship.
Affairs happen because couples don’t hear each other. Anger grows. For some, because they do not feel safe, the anger builds up inside. Or, they have learned long ago not to make waves. Or, perhaps their partner has tuned out.
This leads to feeling isolated, not loved or respected. They don’t feel that they count.
Kids hear the yelling between their parents, or feel the tension around the home. They do not grow up learning the important things about loving in relationships.
Is this the legacy you want to pass on?
Before you do anything, ask yourself about the quality of your communication. It is THE most powerful tool for any relationship or marriage.