ABOUT LIFE COUNSELING, LLC - Repairing Lives, Restoring Hope with Wisdom, Skill and Heart

Before Divorcing

before divorcingWhen All Else Has Failed, let me be your last resort.

Are you about to take that costly final step out of your relationship? Stop!

Meet with me first. Maybe divorcing/ending is the answer – maybe not.

Specializing in both trauma and relationship issues since 1982, I’ve been privileged to repair and revitalize marriages and relationships that at first seemed hopeless. Today, many of those relationships are like new love affairs.

The difference? The suffering for each has ended. Now there are two healthy people who know and use the skills to keep love and passion alive. And, together, they have built a solid foundation of trust.

In many cases, such repair took only a few months of combined individual and couples work. Each person healed old wounds and learned new ways of coming to their partner with their needs and desires.

Powerful Therapeutic Approaches

Intensive training in Imago Therapy (as well as dozens of other useful methods) qualifies me to work with complex relationship issues. The Imago Dialogue creates a safe space for communicating in a respectful, caring way: Each partner learns how to really listen and understand the inner world of the other. Negotiating the tough challenges we all face in life becomes easier and more fruitful. This impressive method of communication facilitates a rebirth of lost intimacy.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy) and HAT (Heart Assisted Therapy) help remove the painful residue of anger, disappointment, and betrayal. My training through these many years is integrated into a rich style that creates deep and lasting healing. And, the EMDR and HAT methods dramatically shorten the time in therapy. This integrative therapeutic approach makes it possible to achieve the kind of intimacy that truly binds relationships.

Having an Affair?

If one of you has been seeing someone else, slow things down and come in before moving out of your current commitment and into a new one. It will help to save you heartbreak down the road. After all, you and your affairee have both cheated and lied in order to be together. What does that say to being able to trust each other in the future?

Don’t jump the gun. Because you are excited and “in love” with the new person and your present relationship feels empty, it doesn’t mean that in time your life will be very different! After all, you bring YOU to this new relationship. And, without this help, we tend to repeat our patterns of choice and behavior. If you do end up together, make it a healthy you that starts a new life.

Are You The Betrayed Partner?

If you are the one in despair over a betrayal, think this through. Before you walk away with all the ramifications that entails, stop and consider. Good therapy can use this betrayal as the jolt that stimulates life-altering healing to your relationship. It is that powerful.

Choosing To Leave?

Indeed, there are those relationships that are truly toxic and life-draining. They should end. Sometimes the grass really is greener elsewhere.

If there is no reviving your marriage or relationship, then end it attempting to make peace between the two of you. Move forward healthier emotionally and psychologically. Leave the animosity behind so that you are open to a very different and happier future.

Make Your Decisions from Clarity – Not Emotion!

If you’re reading this page, it means you’re ready to take a step to change your life. Call me at 609-975-8845. Don’t waste another moment being unhappy or conflicted. Living a life of mediocrity is not a good use of your years on this earth. You deserve better!

Alternative Paths To Divorce

I’ll be happy to help you navigate the legal system, so that you end up having the most efficient and effective way to settle difficult issues.

The traditional route with each of you having your own attorney sometimes is the one that will make sense for your situation. You need to know the drawbacks and the advantages given your goals.

Collaborative Divorce and Mediation have their own advantages that often result in less costs and quicker resolution to a difficult period in your lives.

Masters in Social Work and Psychology
- Relationship & Trauma
- Specialist Since 1982
- Expert in EMDR

Dynamic Therapy

Training & Certifications in Energy
Psychology, Cognitive/Behavioral,
EMDR, HAT, EFT, Hypnotherapy,
Neurolinguistics and more.

Certified Relationship Specialist

Heal Relationships
To separate or grow beyond

Gay and Lesbian Challenges:
How to transcend them

Sexual Issues:
Release from dogma to freedom,
from passive to responsive

Hearing and being heard -
real connection

Resolve Trauma
Certified by American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress: Big and Small Trauma,
Incest, Tragedy, Sexual Violation,
Grieving, Chronic Illness

Clinical Depression,

Consultation to

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Paula was a guest on the weekly WGLS-fm Rowan Radio Show
Your Health Matters with Dr. Craig Wax
Topics Discussed:

  • How Relationships Can Be Compromised Due to Stress
  • The Economy's Impact on Relationships
  • And More...

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to the podcast!!!

Empowering Ourselves Interview

A Message From Paula Susan

During this terrible crisis and isolation, Paula Susan, Trauma and Relationship Specialist since 1982, is here to help you.  We can speak through telephone or Zoom and I will do counseling  that can transform your life.  Traumas - big and little - change the way we feel about ourselves, each other and the world.

I continue to study with the masters in my field.  And, I have integrated the most valuable ways of healing different issues, into the EMDR which I have creatively made my own.

You can reach me at 609-975-8845  and, please check out my website at paulasusan.com (About Life Counseling)