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What to do during this crisis of COVID 19


During this crisis which requires us to isolate, we need to find creative ways to keep ourselves busy and productive.  We need to maintain connections through sources like e-mail, telephone, Zoom, texting, so that we do not pull inward.


Depression, despair is horrific to deal with on top of the challenges of this time.  Dwelling on the problems it creates and the people we love who could be in danger, does not change things!  It keeps you down and feeling helpless…


The most important message I can give you is, STAY PRESENT.  Wake every morning to a “normal” schedule.  Dress as if you are expecting someone to visit.  It will help you feel better.  I no longer bother with accessorizing; however, I do wear earrings just to keep the holes open. Our hair is another thing.  My roots are growing in leaps and bounds and so is my hair.  I am using this time as an experiment.  Wonder what I will look like when this is over? It is important to exercise and if you are living with someone, have them do it with you.  It is unhealthy to let your body go.  Eat well.  Do not binge eat to pass the time.  Plan interesting meals and perhaps a happy dessert. If you enjoy a drink, then do it only on Saturday, to make it feel special.  Drinking as an escape is not healthy.  And, it can lead to bigger problems. Meditate.  That is something you can teach your children.  It is relaxing and puts love in your heart.


Make a list of things you want to do and prioritize.  Then, do them.  It will fill time and you will be accomplishing something.  There are always movies to watch on TV, and lots to learn like courses on line.  You can take “virtual tours” of interesting places.  Listening to music, reading, writing – perhaps your memoirs are all good things.  There are games you can play on Zoom and visit with family members and friends. Write letters – you know the old fashion kind of communication for people you care about, will bring them pleasure.  (No talking about the virus.  It will only pull them and you, down.)


Watch the news only one time a day and not before bedtime.  Choose a channel that offers “real” news and learn what is happening from the major medical people.


This is a perfect time to do healing work for you.  I’m here for you.  I am here with the skills, my heart and my wisdom.  It is a privilege to help.


Paula Susan


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- Specialist Since 1982
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A Message From Paula Susan

During this terrible crisis and isolation, Paula Susan, Trauma and Relationship Specialist since 1982, is here to help you.  We can speak through telephone or Zoom and I will do counseling  that can transform your life.  Traumas - big and little - change the way we feel about ourselves, each other and the world.

I continue to study with the masters in my field.  And, I have integrated the most valuable ways of healing different issues, into the EMDR which I have creatively made my own.

You can reach me at 609-975-8845  and, please check out my website at paulasusan.com (About Life Counseling)