ABOUT LIFE COUNSELING, LLC - Repairing Lives, Restoring Hope with Wisdom, Skill and Heart

South Jersey’s Specialist in Complex Relationships/Marriage and Trauma



Since 1982, I have enjoyed the privilege of helping human beings heal and grow.

Most often, the issues that arise in a once-loving relationship have a connection, in some way, to the difficulties faced as a child. Parents may rage, say things that put you down creating low self-esteem which often remains through adulthood, committed incest which will lead to sexual problems, psychological, emotional abuse, violence, neglect.

Anyone of these will remain in the body easily affecting their behavior and sense of the world. Their own anger, emotional pain, and fear may unconsciously be wrecking their relationships.

There have not been any conversations on division of labor.  Expectations of roles haven’t been discussed and agreed upon. Boundaries are not clear.  Sexual issues are often not discussed. Many people don’t grow their sexual potential. Some are adverse to it. They don’t discuss the difference in their desire.

Children often get mixed message when parents have differences in their parenting style.

Of course, there are many issues that come up when two people join their lives. Their past experiences, beliefs, expectations – all that shaped each partner may clash and a war of silence or attack may ensue. There are ways to deal with it all by learning communication skills, healing the wounds of the past, learning how to create a healthy, loving and fun relationship.

Coming to see me could be the best thing you could do for yourself and absolutely for your marriage/relationship.

Check out this website www.paulasusan.com, and call me with your concerns at 609-975-8845

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Masters in Social Work and Psychology
- Relationship & Trauma
- Specialist Since 1982
- Expert in EMDR

Dynamic Therapy

Training & Certifications in Energy
Psychology, Cognitive/Behavioral,
EMDR, HAT, EFT, Hypnotherapy,
Neurolinguistics and more.

Certified Relationship Specialist

Heal Relationships
To separate or grow beyond

Gay and Lesbian Challenges:
How to transcend them

Sexual Issues:
Release from dogma to freedom,
from passive to responsive

Hearing and being heard -
real connection

Resolve Trauma
Certified by American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress: Big and Small Trauma,
Incest, Tragedy, Sexual Violation,
Grieving, Chronic Illness

Clinical Depression,

Consultation to

Referral Network


Guest Blogger at

Paula was a guest on the weekly WGLS-fm Rowan Radio Show
Your Health Matters with Dr. Craig Wax
Topics Discussed:

  • How Relationships Can Be Compromised Due to Stress
  • The Economy's Impact on Relationships
  • And More...

Click below to listen
to the podcast!!!

Empowering Ourselves Interview

A Message From Paula Susan

During this terrible crisis and isolation, Paula Susan, Trauma and Relationship Specialist since 1982, is here to help you.  We can speak through telephone or Zoom and I will do counseling  that can transform your life.  Traumas - big and little - change the way we feel about ourselves, each other and the world.

I continue to study with the masters in my field.  And, I have integrated the most valuable ways of healing different issues, into the EMDR which I have creatively made my own.

You can reach me at 609-975-8845  and, please check out my website at paulasusan.com (About Life Counseling)