SOUTH JERSEY’S SPECIALIST IN COMPLEX RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGE AND TRAUMA
Since 1982, I have enjoyed the privilege of helping human beings heal and grow.
Most often, the issues that arise in a once-loving relationship have a connection, in some way, to the difficulties faced as a child. Parents may rage, say things that put you down creating low self-esteem which often remains through adulthood, committed incest which will lead to sexual problems, psychological, emotional abuse, violence, neglect.
Anyone of these will remain in the body easily affecting their behavior and sense of the world. Their own anger, emotional pain, and fear may unconsciously be wrecking their relationships.
There have not been any conversations on division of labor. Expectations of roles haven’t been discussed and agreed upon. Boundaries are not clear. Sexual issues are often not discussed. Many people don’t grow their sexual potential. Some are adverse to it. They don’t discuss the difference in their desire.
Children often get mixed message when parents have differences in their parenting style.
Of course, there are many issues that come up when two people join their lives. Their past experiences, beliefs, expectations – all that shaped each partner may clash and a war of silence or attack may ensue. There are ways to deal with it all by learning communication skills, healing the wounds of the past, learning how to create a healthy, loving and fun relationship.
Coming to see me could be the best thing you could do for yourself and absolutely for your marriage/relationship.
Check out this website www.paulasusan.com, and call me with your concerns at 609-975-8845