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Marriage/relationship and Trauma Specialist, Paula Susan, makes sense of it.



When you “fell in love”, you saw many things that felt wonderful. You looked forward to a “wonderful” life.

I have defined that initial state as a psychosis. It grips and draws you to each other, with impatient passion, and consuming excitement.

Why is it that many of those relationships do not last through time?

Couples say they have fallen out of love.

Sex is no longer an attraction. Long talks at night have vanished from the scene.

It doesn’t matter that thousands of dollars went into the fairy tale wedding. Nor, more importantly, the vows they made before God, each other, friends and family are being tossed away, instead of seeking help.

Their relationship has fallen to levels of fighting, alcohol, affairs and worse.

People are not prepared with skills of how to listen to each other with compassion. Most people do not recognize that much of their early beginnings have been internalized, and they are often replicated by themselves or their partners. People marry with high expectations of their relationship.

They can repair and develop new ways of looking at your partner, and knowing what an intimate connection can look like.

This work that I have been doing for almost 37 years can change lives. Together they will heal the wounds they have visited on each other. They can learn an amazing, safe way to Dialogue which will pave the path for compassionate connection. Resentments, anger, path and stop the pain accumulated.

Show your kids, your friends that commitment is vital to relationships, and that you cared enough to see an expert and bring you back to an even better place than when you fell in love.

(Paula Susan is a relationship and trauma specialist in Southern New Jersey who has been counseling couples and individuals for over 33 years.)


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Masters in Social Work and Psychology
- Relationship & Trauma
- Specialist Since 1982
- Expert in EMDR

Dynamic Therapy

Training & Certifications in Energy
Psychology, Cognitive/Behavioral,
EMDR, HAT, EFT, Hypnotherapy,
Neurolinguistics and more.

Certified Relationship Specialist

Heal Relationships
To separate or grow beyond

Gay and Lesbian Challenges:
How to transcend them

Sexual Issues:
Release from dogma to freedom,
from passive to responsive

Hearing and being heard -
real connection

Resolve Trauma
Certified by American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress: Big and Small Trauma,
Incest, Tragedy, Sexual Violation,
Grieving, Chronic Illness

Clinical Depression,

Consultation to

Referral Network


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Paula was a guest on the weekly WGLS-fm Rowan Radio Show
Your Health Matters with Dr. Craig Wax
Topics Discussed:

  • How Relationships Can Be Compromised Due to Stress
  • The Economy's Impact on Relationships
  • And More...

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to the podcast!!!

Empowering Ourselves Interview

A Message From Paula Susan

During this terrible crisis and isolation, Paula Susan, Trauma and Relationship Specialist since 1982, is here to help you.  We can speak through telephone or Zoom and I will do counseling  that can transform your life.  Traumas - big and little - change the way we feel about ourselves, each other and the world.

I continue to study with the masters in my field.  And, I have integrated the most valuable ways of healing different issues, into the EMDR which I have creatively made my own.

You can reach me at 609-975-8845  and, please check out my website at paulasusan.com (About Life Counseling)