I consider my work and all my relationships to be sacred. I value this finite time we all have on this earth and I have made it my commitment to each of my clients to help you live a quality life – one well-lived. Your positive therapy experience can move you into a life beyond your imagining.

Through the years, I have become the professional other professionals seek for confidential help.

When you meet me, you will feel my genuine concern. You will experience my respect for you and your goals.

You will be able to trust me with your most intimate concerns because I am trustworthy. My integrity, both personally and professionally, is most important to me.

I will lay out for you the way I would want to work, so that you have an understanding of the scope of my abilities, and my vision.

You will quickly see that my skills and experience will enable you to be living your life without spending years in talk therapy.

I will treat you like a grownup who deserves to know what I see from my years of accumulated knowledge and wisdom.

You will be meeting a woman who has done my own growth work and has broken the unconscious patterns which influenced my painful path.

You will feel my genuine empathy for your suffering and at the same time, I will be sharing my educated opinions about how to move you beyond your stuck point.

I will help make conscious what you were not able to see - that which has influenced the way you relate to the world and the people in your life – the obstacles you have placed in your own way. You will learn how to give and to receive love from a place of acceptance and generosity.

Many therapists believe that they can treat any problem that comes into their offices. I DO NOT! Relationships and Trauma are specialties that I think require intense and continual learning in order to bring true healing to very deep and complex issues.

I teach you take-home skills so that you can trust yourself to cope with every day challenges, while I do the deeper work with you.

Couples will learn a communication skill that I think is the finest in our field, so you can create a safe and respectful way of moving closer to each other, listening and hearing and really “getting” each other.. I’ll teach you what loving negotiation looks like and how you can both get your needs and wants met so that the bond is the priority and the respect for each other is a constant.

My training gives me the ability to help couples dissolve the accumulated resentments that happen over time in most relationships.

In working with trauma, I have integrated many ways of alleviating the physiological, psychological and emotional residue that hinders people’s lives. EMDR (see Triumph Over Trauma) moves therapy into levels of healing that talk therapy does not and it actually changes the neurons in the brain which have held the trauma and compromised your life. (See the information on neuroscience which I incorporate into my work for lasting change.)

Within a personally designed protocol, which allows for deep discovery in a short period of time, I help people realize that the Chinese were correct when they chose to use the same symbol for crisis as opportunity. The issues that bring you to me will prove a gateway to a wonderful life.

Whatever your issue, whatever your skepticism, call and speak with me. Honor this time you have on earth by being able to live it with personal power, gratitude and grace.

 

Who Comes to Paula and For What Problems

• People struggling with INFIDELITY issues creating havoc in their relationships, with questions about whether they can heal the damage - or should move on.
• Those understanding the benefits of good COMMUNICATION SKILLS which allow for better relationships in the business world, in friendships, and in families. The skills I teach couples, facilitate deep connection and intimacy, which sustain love and create solutions to differences.
• Couples come to deal with complex RELATIONSHIP problems including illness, sexuality, mood or anxiety disorders, death, PTSD and how these issues affect them.
• Those who need to decide if DIVORCE is the right path. People who know the importance of healing the anger and pain of the marriage, in order to rebuild their lives - if they do choose to leave, insuring that life patterns are not unconsciously repeated.
• SURVIVORS of life-shattering events, which were witnessed or experienced at any point in their lives, who recognize the value to them of deep healing.
• PROFESSIONALS requiring confidential and experienced help with relationships, trauma and/or career, and those needing a referral source they can trust.
• ATTORNEYS refer their clients to control their emotional reactivity and resolve issues, as well as themselves for help with their own personal lives.
• COLLABORATIVE ATTORNEYS wanting a trained Divorce Coach to help facilitate their process.
• MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS needing to refer patients to competent care, or requiring private help for their own stresses.
• PSYCHIATRISTS, PSYCHOLOGISTS, SOCIAL WORKERS, etc. who want to improve their own challenging lives, to better help their clients/patients.
• PERFORMERS, ATHLETES, ARTISTS blocked by insecurities.
• People who recognize they cannot see their own blind spots and want to gain mastery over them.

Since 1982, I have welcomed the opportunity to bring people from profound unhappiness into the experience of healthy, happy living. If you don’t fit any of the categories, please call and speak with me. I will let you know if I can help you with your unique situation. If I cannot, I will refer you to someone who I believe will. I encourage you, don’t settle for mediocrity in your life or your therapist.

Some of the Trainings which Inform My Work

In addition to my Masters degrees in Clinical Social Work and Psychology, I am continually learning from the brilliant, creative minds who are learned about the complexity of human nature. Here are some of the trainings I integrate into my healing work, always considering the individual client’s needs and learning style.

Psychodynamic Neurolinguistic Neuroscience Imago Relationship Therapy Cognitive/Behavioral Therapy Hypnotherapy Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Bibliotherapy

Reality Therapy Journaling Gestalt Psychodrama Transactional Analysis Emotional Freedom Technique Thought Field Therapy Other Energy Psychologies Rational Emotive Therapy

The list will continue to grow and is not complete as of this moment. I am committed to continue educating myself as I honor my responsibility to my clients’ well-being.

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